A quick refresher in case you haven't been following along - we suddenly became full-time carers with David - a 12 year old boy (fictional names used) in our care. About 4-5 months into the placement we had seen a lot of improvement in overall health (better eating, weight gain and growth for his age) and had committed to caring for David long-term. However life wasn't easy and we were dealing with some pretty severe transference and anger issues in day to day life which were continuing to escalate. When I started writing here I committed to share my experiences both good and bad for the benefit of carers and potential carers alike, and this post definitely falls into the bad category. But in amongst the difficult situations we must learn … [Read more...]

Dealing with wariness

Our second respite foster care placement would be with our first set of regular ongoing respite arrangements: 6 year old Erica and her younger 4 year old sister Megan (fictional names and stock image used). This was my first experience of dealing with wariness and something we both found very challenging to work through so I wanted to share my experience of this. The issue didn't immediately present itself. In fact the carers had prepared the children incredibly well for their time with us and after some initial nervousness it didn't take them long to turn into chatterboxes and settle for their first night of sleep at our place. For the first full day with them we had planned an outing where we would visit Sydney Sea Life Aquarium. We … [Read more...]