Transition Planning

The reality had set in that the situation had become unsustainable with David, the 12 year old boy in our care (fictional name used) and we needed to shift the focus to transition planning. Some of you may be thinking why say 'transition planning', isn't this just a 'placement breakdown'? Why don't you call it what it is? It's true this was a placement breakdown and all the negative aspects associated with breakdowns were being experienced here: feelings of failure, being overwhelmed in the current situation and a fear of what will be the next step for the child and how they will cope. The whole situation sucked, there is no other way to describe it. We had a choice: we could dwell on all the negative aspects, or we could do our best to … [Read more...]

Unsustainable

A quick refresher in case you haven't been following along - we suddenly became full-time carers with David - a 12 year old boy (fictional names used) in our care. About 4-5 months into the placement we had seen a lot of improvement in overall health (better eating, weight gain and growth for his age) and had committed to caring for David long-term. However life wasn't easy and we were dealing with some pretty severe transference and anger issues in day to day life which were continuing to escalate. When I started writing here I committed to share my experiences both good and bad for the benefit of carers and potential carers alike, and this post definitely falls into the bad category. But in amongst the difficult situations we must learn … [Read more...]